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Posted by Dr. Bob on June 22, 2004, at 16:36:13
In reply to nardil/parnate=manic likelihood?, posted by colin wallace on June 20, 2004, at 7:50:17
From a post by colin wallace on June 20, 2004, at 7:50:17
> the loss of my brother earlier this year in Iraq whilst working for an aid agency (actually, 'loss' here is just a euphemism for murder)has sent me completely over the edge and into a depression that I now have very little interest left in fighting.
Posted by Jai Narayan on June 23, 2004, at 7:57:18
In reply to the loss of my brother in Iraq « colin wallace, posted by Dr. Bob on June 22, 2004, at 16:36:13
> > the loss of my brother earlier this year in Iraq whilst working for an aid agency (actually, 'loss' here is just a euphemism for murder)has sent me completely over the edge and into a depression that I now have very little interest left in fighting.
***I am so sorry to hear of your suffering. I can't imagine how painful that is.
Was this your brother younger or older?
Can you talk about him?You are in shock....it takes a while to come out of that kind of shock. Please be patient with yourself.
Untimely death of any kind is just too hard to bear.
My partner lost a child in a fire. He's still working on the incredible feelings that are still around this issue. His son died on July 4th, 20 years ago.
So you see we all need time to move through and heal. There are no miracle cures. But self patience and being kind to yourself will help.
please keep in touch, this is a wonderful group of people who really care.
Posted by colin wallace on June 23, 2004, at 19:11:35
In reply to Re: the loss of my brother in Iraq, posted by Jai Narayan on June 23, 2004, at 7:57:18
> > > the loss of my brother earlier this year in Iraq whilst working for an aid agency (actually, 'loss' here is just a euphemism for murder)has sent me completely over the edge and into a depression that I now have very little interest left in fighting.
>
> ***I am so sorry to hear of your suffering. I can't imagine how painful that is.
> Was this your brother younger or older?
> Can you talk about him?
>
> You are in shock....it takes a while to come out of that kind of shock. Please be patient with yourself.
>
> Untimely death of any kind is just too hard to bear.
>
> My partner lost a child in a fire. He's still working on the incredible feelings that are still around this issue. His son died on July 4th, 20 years ago.
>
> So you see we all need time to move through and heal. There are no miracle cures. But self patience and being kind to yourself will help.
>
> please keep in touch, this is a wonderful group of people who really care.
Jai,Many thanks for your kind sentiments.Yes, there are some terrific people on this board and I personally have have derived much from it over the years.To lose one's child in such circumstances as your partners is heartwrenching just to imagine as a stranger.
You are right of course, miracle cures do not exist-to be relieved of grief prematurely would be to deprive us of essential humanity.
I can accept the grieving process,within reason,and I shall have to learn to reconcile the image of a slain loved one with the person I cared so much about.
What will be harder to recocile is my current anger and untoward hatred toward those 'poor beleagured Iraqis', the majority of whom are 'crying out for freedom'.
Militants, agitators and murderers simply cannot function in a country without the tacit,even furtive, support the populace.Instead of crowing and bleating about the 'occupiers' they should 'rise up' and fight the scum who are intent on wrecking their country.They don't, because they are too bloody spineless.
These people should be left to their own devices to see just how they fare when they tear themselves apart.
Col. (not at all embittered...much!)
Posted by Jai Narayan on June 23, 2004, at 22:19:37
In reply to Re: the loss of my brother in Iraq » Jai Narayan, posted by colin wallace on June 23, 2004, at 19:11:35
Oh, Colin....
I hope you are not bitter too long...
It's a place that has no mercy.
I am all about love and wisdom....
I hope that you will move through this painful passage.
I will be thinking about you.
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